I would love to have a more active blog on my website, and constantly find myself putting it off for several reasons. Be it family (3 kids under 3 is a full time job in itself) or working on my dissertation, or just finding something else aside from writing. Aside from getting more in shape for the New Years, I wanted to make a better effort in blogging. So away we go!
Working in the field that I do, you tend to notice unique trends in not only each individual client, but just senses of society in general too. I think it is safe to say we have all had our belly fill of the political topics that have been going around, but there seems to be a general anger and frustration with the world in general. Is it politics? Is it social media? Is is dissatisfaction with our jobs? I have theories, but that would be dabbling into one sided perspectives and that’s not the aim of this. However, I do think there are things that all of us could agree to work on, regardless of where we fall on social and moral issues.
Letting go of grudges……even hate………
I admit, I am a stubborn person and can hang onto things a little too well. Do you have someone that has wronged you in some way that you are just holding this negativity towards them? Do you find that it takes up your thoughts and has an impact on your emotions? That grudge, that hate, takes more effort to harbor than you’d like to admit or even can acknowledge. Negative feelings towards people takes so much of a toll on us, so why continue to do it? Because it’s easy. Because it’s just become part of our everyday life. Because forgiveness is out of the question. Because forgiveness is hard.
Forgiveness can heal though. Forgiveness does not mean accepting or being ok with horrible things that a person has done, but forgiving them for their decisions and freeing them from taking that negative space in your heart and your mind. There’s better ways to spend our energy, and directing it to better ourselves, our families, our relationships, our jobs, etc is more satisfying than holding onto negativity and letting that negativity spread through us and to others.